Saturday, September 6, 2008

The First Week

I don't want to get too excited, but the first week back went well. Gus's teacher reported that he was fine even if a little distracted by the afternoons. She gave him reading time at the end of the day, which helped. I'm happy to see that she's pretty adaptable, at least so far. We're going to target a few areas to work on with him: keeping his hands to himself and off of other people's things; keeping his internal dialog to himself are two that I'm thinking of. Hopefully we can work out some strategies that will help him self-regulate.

I've been reading a book called Positive Discipline, and while I'm still working my way through it, I do feel that the approach will leave a child feeling more empowered than the alternative discipline models. So far, I've seen better cooperation from MM and Gus has needed minimal redirection. They're both taking more responsibility in the house and are adhering to the new school-time routines. Maybe I can share what I'm learning with Gus's teacher for a better outcome than last year. By the end of the year, his self-worth seemed to have decreased (in my opinion), his anxiety had increased, and he ended up on medication. I am not interested in going that route again. If they can't meet his needs without making him feel down on himself, then perhaps it's time to give homeschooling a try. I don't know if I can do it, but I'd rather try than have my son feel unsuccessful because other people are frustrated from having to redirect him so much. That's what he's there for-his IEP even says so!

Anyway, I don't want to get into a rant. I'm going to stay positive as long as I can and hope for the best. How is the school year shaping up for you if you've got school-aged kids?


  1. Well that does seem a very positive start to the year. Somehow that book rings a distant bell [a very tiny one] Perhaps I read it too soon. Maybe I should have a little hunt around and read it again.
    Best wishes

  2. Thanks, Maddy! The author of Positive Discipline is Jane Nelsen. I agree with a lot of what she says (even if I'm not always great about following it) but I'm still iffy on how to adapt her philosophy to Gus. She doesn't really address special needs, at least not so far as I've seen. I'd be interested to know what you think if you find it!

  3. I too have an autistic child. He started Kindergarten this year. He (I) lucked out with a great teacher this year. She is always open to suggestions from me and I from her. She is having an autism specialist come into her room and give her suggestions on handling Tom. It is so nice to hear form other mom's going through the same thing your are going through. Good Luck


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